Fall in love..but don't hit the ground !
The bond is a rather strong one once it involves unwavering trust, staunch support and unparalleled understanding. Nothing and no one impacts your life as much as the person you love does. The world might be hating you or demotivating you or giving you mammoth reasons to cry but that one person who loves you is good enough a reason to hold on and keep trying until you reach the desired goal.
Here's a story of naive innocent first love...Aisha fell in love with this guy early last April, it was a prolonged crush which finally culminated into an official commitment over a year. It was her first ever relationship, scared that she was of losing him, made a point to listen to him come what may. He was a very mature individual, unlike her and had been in multiple relationships before. It took him long to get involved in the relation to match her zeal and involvement. It's simple- if you are given a job you are not passionate about you'll never be promoted, likewise a relation where there's just one sided involvement, doesn't go far. On their date they went to a classy sports bar and had the most wonderful time of their lives. She looked awestruck and and new-love-struck (if such a word exists!) on being into a commitment for the first time in the 21 years of her existence. He looked content and happy with an elderly acknowledgement of being in a relationship after two years. They laughed and chatted and enjoyed the new feeling of belonging to each other.
Hours passed into days and days passed into months, the bond thickened. Despite it being a long distance stint they did strive to do whatever it took to hold on to the so called "love" and "commitment"...Alas! Good things end soon and this did too...times change people do...so do feelings...and then arrived the fateful night of giving up on love...quitting in the face of hardship and letting go off someone as you "have too much on your plate"...is what followed. He quit and she died...death does not occur only when you leave your body, it's when your spirit, your smile and the purpose of your existence leaves you all at once.
She was never the same again...the chirpy girl she used to be...so much in awe of everything and in love with the idea of love ha suddenly grown up. She matured overnight. She owes it to this guy, she never calls him a 'man' coz he wasn't a man enough..."A guy will do whatever you want until you give him what he wants, but a man will make you his wife first" (Chicken Soup for the Mother's Soul)
She has forgiven him... has no regrets no complaints...she feels all make mistakes.. we aren't saints...she misses him quite a bit but would never admit...she cares about this guy...she cant explain why...She feels he was just messed up but was true...she told him 'I was prettier when I belonged to you'...she says not everything ends in a happily ever after...and wishes to see him over coffee with some laughter...
"Time is the greatest healer...it heals one and all...
No matter how gigantic the grief, no matter how small
Enjoy life, be content, just giggle around
Fall in love, but do it right! Don't hit the ground"
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